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Selective self-control refers to our ability to control ourselves in some circumstances, but not in others. Selective self-control tells you that you can’t control your reactions to certain circumstances, and then you feel helpless about your ability to exert power over your own behavior.
Anger management can be a problem for some people, but there are definitely some skills that you can work on to help with this problem if you are one of those people. You want to be in control of your anger, not have your anger control you.The goal of anger management is not to never feel angry. The goal is to be able to express anger appropriately and without aggression towards other people.
Setting boundaries can be hard if you have struggled with being assertive and confident in your life.When you do not have strong boundaries with others, you can end up feeling taken advantage of, disrespected, or powerless. Learn how to set healthy boundaries in all your relationships and feel more confident when setting limits with others.
Sex can and should be a fun and integral part of your relationship or marriage. It’s also one of the main reasons people break up and it’s a big source of conflict for some couples.
Personality differences can complicate relationships. Communication and respect for your differences will help you use those personality traits to your advantage and build a stronger partnership along the way.
Sometimes the hardest thing to overcome in your relationship is not what’s happening right now, but what happened to you in the past and how that affects you today. Being aware of how your past has impacted you emotionally will help you to have a healthier approach to resolving conflict with your partner and build the relationship you really want.
Holistic Mental Health
When you are in a depressive state, it can be a challenge to get out of, even when you’re tired of feeling bad all the time. Cutting some things out instead of adding more to your to-do list can be one strategy to combat depression and start to feel better, so that you actually have the energy to take care of yourself. Here are some things that you can safely ditch when you’re feeling depressed so that you have more time and energy to focus on yourself and get to feeling better:
Depression can feel like an overwhelming sadness that saps the joy out of your life and prevents you from taking even small steps forward. Depression is treatable, though, and there are many ways to manage the symptoms of depression.
Using sensory distraction is one way of coping during a panic attack, and there are several ways to do this.The RAINBOW method involves the use of your visual senses. You can think of this practice as kind-of like a mantra that you can use during period of overwhelming anxiety to bring your attention back to present moment.
When a person experienced a trauma, such as life-threatening events, abusive relationships, sexual assault, or witnessing violence, they often experience physical responses and ailments that may last years after the traumatic experience is over. These kinds of responses in the body are known as psycho-somatic symptoms, and they are part of the mind-body connection to trauma.
There are several things to keep in mind when you are considering counseling for trauma recovery. Having the right expectations can help you get the most out of your counseling experience and hopefully make it a healing and therapeutic process.
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Rachel Mullins, LCSW
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