The Blog

How to Take a Compliment

When someone gives you a compliment, you have a choice about how to receive it.  I will say up front that this is a problem that I have personally struggled with at times in my life, but have worked to change over time.  Most of us intend to be gracious and...

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“Work It Out” Is Here!

I am pleased and proud to announce the launch of my new book “Work It Out: A Survival Guide To The Modern Relationship”, out now and available on Amazon.  This has been a project that I have been working on for some time now, and it is based on my work with couples in...

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Suicide Rising

In June, news broke of the suicides of both luxury handbag designer Kate Spade and international food celebrity Anthony Bourdain.  Whenever high-profile celebrities complete suicide, we are reminded that depression and mental health conditions touch every class of...

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Balancing Internal and External Validation

Validation is a natural human need that comes from our origins as social beings.  While some species are content to live most of their lives alone, humans have always lived in groups, and thus our need for social acceptance is deeply engrained in our consciousness. ...

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Building Frustration Tolerance

Many of us struggle from time to time with low frustration tolerance.  Perhaps you find yourself fuming at small inconveniences, or a minor infraction by your partner, peers, or children.  When our lives become overly stressful, it can be difficult to keep little...

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How to Un-friend and Still Be Friends

Social media has changed our lives in so many ways, including how we communicate with our friends.  There have been many positive things that have come out of the rise of social media, such as reconnecting with old friends we haven’t seen or spoken to in many years,...

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This is Not a Drill

When I was in about 3rd or 4th grade, my classmates and I had all the standard safety drills in elementary school.  Fire drills, tornado drills, and the like.  There was one drill though, that I remember doing only once, which was the active shooter drill.  I don’t...

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Are you Parenting your Partner?

I see a lot of clients for marital/relationship counseling, and one of the most common and frustrating factors that people struggle with when they come to see me is something that I call the Parent/Child Dynamic.  This happens when one partner has taken on the role of...

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Self-Care: We’re Talking about it Wrong

As someone in a caregiving profession, I know all about “self-care”.  Other people in caregiving professions and  high stress jobs are frequently reminded that we need to take care of ourselves in order to ensure our long lasting ability to continue to perform our...

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Do you have to forgive an abusive parent?

Many people struggle with healing from an abusive childhood, and when the abuser was a parent, the healing process can be particularly complicated.  Everyone has a unique story and the impact on individuals is affected by many different factors.  The severity,...

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Aly Raisman Speaks for Survivors, and Herself

This past Friday, Olympic Gold medalist Aly Raisman delivered a powerful victim impact statement at the sentencing portion of convicted sexual abuser Larry Nassar, former doctor to the USA Gymnastics team.  Nassar pled guilty to 7 counts of sexually abusing minors,...

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The Benefits of Emotional Support Animals

Many people are familiar with the practice of pet therapy, as well as service animals, but I’ve noticed a rise in both the benefits and recognition of a newer category of animals known as emotional support animals (ESA).  Emotional support animals are not trained to...

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Women at Werk Empowerment Conference

This past weekend I had the pleasure of attending the first annual Women at Werk Empowerment Conference.  This was an event that combined presentations from successful working professionals with vendors, information booths, and give-aways by women-owned and operated...

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Rebuilding Trust

One question I often hear from couple’s who have experienced infidelity is: how do I trust my partner again?  It’s a difficult question to answer, because while many people say trust is earned, I tend to say that it is given.  Sometimes betrayals happen even after...

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